13 Sep Batman and Robin
Batman Became the Bad Boy With Little Robin
(New Cat Competition, Integration, Loss)
Batman was reluctant to accept a new companion after the loss of Robin, his BBF.
When Avery contacted me, his young cat Batman was still grief stricken from the loss of Robin his BBF. Time went on, and Avery adopted little Robin, a one year old female, so Batman could have a new bud. But Batman had no eyes for Robin, and when he sometimes chased her, it was not play.
“Batman has become the bad boy,” said Avery.
Major Recommendations for Relationship in Paw-gress
During the phone consult Avery filled me in on Robin’s demise, and how he felt he and Batman had mirrored each other’s grief. As he talked, the link of music I sent him played in the background, and the phone was on speaker so the cats could sense and integrate the feeling of their session.
“Avery,” I said, “as you play with them, acknowledge Batman by name, for being the best bro for Little Robin, and refocus Batman’s aggressive interactions with distraction — enthusiastic toss of a toy or a loud, repetitive sound — gradually, the less aggressive he will be.
Prognosis
I told Avery that as time went on there would be more break-throughs and fewer break-downs. Relationships vary. The more he could let go, the smoother and more harmonious their relationship would flow. I ended their session with distant Reiki, and Avery mentioned how he felt some of his residual grief and angst was eased.
(For more on New Feline Relationships, scroll down to Myla Throws A Hissy Fit)
Here’s Avery’s update:
Hi Carole, Hope you are doing well. I thought it was time for an update. Here it finally is.
Things here are going fine with Batman and Robin. I want to thank you once more for giving me the knowledge and insight I needed to let them figure it out and provide a safe place for Little Robs and get Batman through the trauma of losing his brother. He has been a terrific companion and I’ve learned a lot through this process. They’ve come a long way and I don’t feel I have to worry about Little Robs being scared anymore. They’ve both figured out how to get along, often in the same room. The other day, Little Robs lost all her fears and started chasing a mouse with Batman until she ended up right next to him and realized what was going on. When he does chase her, which is much less frequently than in the beginning, it almost seems more like they are playing.
They’ve also provided me with lots of laughs as it is sometimes very funny watching them figure things out. Maybe in two more years they will be sleeping with each other. You can count us as another one of your success stories.
I hope I won’t need your services again but I won’t hesitate if I do.
Thanks again,
A.Z., South Oneonta, N.Y.