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Toby is often on the run from Bobby<\/strong><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n

Urine puddles, aggression and grief<\/strong>
(Indiscriminate Urination, Grief Angst, Displaced Aggression, Patience Supports Mental Health) <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cSunny from Animal Village<\/a><\/strong> New Mexico, gave me your name. My beautiful rescued Snowshoe Siamese has started peeing on everything. We treated him first with meds for infection. No improvement. He is now on meds for stress. Still no improvement! He\u2019s 12,\u201d said Nellie, and she scheduled a phone consult.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tinkled On Cat Mats<\/strong>
As we did the consult, Nellie clicked on speaker phone and the link to the relaxation music I\u2019d sent. She filled me in on how they\u2019d adopted Toby when he was about five years old in 2012. \u201cAlthough he had a microchip, when the shelter contacted his family, he was disowned. From the start Toby tinkled on the cat beds. We figured it was a fetish. Only now this behavior has escalated to our rugs, beds and more.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Toby\u2019s Companions<\/strong>
\u201cBobby is fourteen, and his fave bud passed on several months ago. The two guys were inseparable. Bobby\u2019s grief has manifested in aggression towards Toby. He even sometimes ambushes Toby when he\u2019s in the litter box or litter box bound. Bobby is more or less oblivious to Stella, their female companion. Stella is ten and she will sometimes hiss at Toby. She tends to be more aloof with her interactions.
The cats all slept with us until recently when Toby peed in our bed,\u201d said Nellie. \u201cNow he spends the night in my office.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Stella is a cuddle cat<\/strong><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n

Symptom Of Angst \u2014 Not Fetish Or Spitefulness<\/strong>
\u201cToby\u2019s incidents from the start on their cat beds were a symptom of his angst and discomfort — not a fetish. When he had an anxiety attack, his stress targeted his bladder. Toby purposely detoured-avoided the litter box as an S.O.S. for your help. The soft cat beds reminded him of the intimacy and comfort of the mother cat. They returned him to his comfort zone.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cSo his abandonment triggered his anxiety?\u201d said Nellie.
\u201cYes,\u201d and I went on to explain that his vulnerability could\u2019ve started during the gestation period. The mother and\/or father cat could\u2019ve been out of sorts. Also, Toby might\u2019ve been the runt of his litter or\/and didn\u2019t get the right nipple. Any one of these issues may have contributed to his emotional fragility — his mental health.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Toby\u2019s Patience Supports His Mental Health<\/strong>
\u201cPhew, so it\u2019s almost a decade that Toby\u2019s incidents have signaled his angst, and now he\u2019s really over the edge — the fact that he pees all over. We\u2019re about out of patience.\u201d
\u201cYes, you are and likewise with Toby,\u201d I explained. As his angst increased, his incidents have become more frequent and more in your face<\/em>, so to speak. There\u2019s no way for you to ignore or rationalize them. Toby\u2019s decade of patience is now on the decline. His incidents are out of desperation. Although a cat is a model of patience, when his physical or mental health is challenged he becomes desperate.\u201d
\u201cWhat\u2019s thrown Toby over?\u201d said Nellie.
\u201cIt\u2019s a combination of irritants — senior cat status, lower stress tolerance, and Bobby\u2019s aggressiveness is the significant cause.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Bobby is still in grief mode over his best bud companion<\/strong><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n

Bobby\u2019s Grief Gap<\/strong>
I told Nellie that Bobby\u2019s boundaries are blurred without his very best bud. It\u2019s easier to experience anger instead of sadness and Toby has become Bobby\u2019s tension target — a way to release his fear and grief.
\u201cSo what can we do to restore peace? We don\u2019t want to break up our family?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Treatment Plan To Chip Away At Aggression And Fear<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

  • Play the link of music to recreate the relaxation and confidence of the session. The music will be their security object.<\/li>
  • Line Toby\u2019s litter box with wee wee pads or paper towels to recreate the comfort he received from mother cat\u2019s fur. Praise the cats whenever they use the litter box.<\/li>
  • Feed Toby a bladder friendly food, even though he doesn\u2019t have a medical problem.<\/li>
  • It may be necessary to change Toby\u2019s anxiety medication to support his behavioral program and also to have the vet prescribe one for Bobby. The medication can slowly be weaned later on. Wait about a week to see what progress they make before you speak to the vet.<\/li>
  • Remember to always acknowledge the other cats verbally, \u201cright guys\u201d or \u201cisn\u2019t that good\u201d whenever you interact or touch one of their companions. This creates unity and chips away at jealousy. <\/li>
  • Tell Bobby how it\u2019s so generous of him to be the role model to Toby and Stella. We want to change his attitude and m.o. with a positive reflection. Repeat and repeat.<\/li>
  • It may be necessary to sequester Toby in a small space with all his comforts when you\u2019re out or can\u2019t be with him. You may have to use this technique more often, depending on his rate of recovery. When a cat is anxious he seeks out a small space.<\/li>
  • Tell them how courageous and mellow they\u2019re becoming instead of negative banter.<\/li>
  • A heating pad or hot water bottle will relax and comfort them if they like heat.<\/li>
  • Encourage them to play together with a few toss toys or wands. This will enable them to be close without friction. <\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n

    I reminded Nellie that there may be break-downs. However, they will recover sooner as their stress tolerance and confidence increases. It\u2019s a paw at a time that will create this game-changer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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